The past few days have been all about memories. I have them, yes, but, in my current melancholy state, as I impatiently await my levitation from radiotherapy tiredness, I don’t allow myself to indulge. It’s not just the tiredness, but the aloneness, and the the Lonely. When someone gets to the beyond of 70, that someone can be forgiven for believing they are now elderly. I am not elderly. It’s quite a word, now that I look at it in print, like a kind of dismissal, or the onset of such. I hear writers name my age thus, in the kindest of ways, my grandad, my granny, the old girl next door, but for the one inside the body and mind of such labelling, it sits not easy. So what to do? I don’t know because I never, ever, thought I would get here and the here of this here seems to have blasted in very recently with handcuffs, a takeover. Perhaps this last few months of……I won’t say illness because I have never fet ill, so let’s call it astonishment. There I was, quite joco, getting on with living alone and learning with faltering steps to realise that I am my purpose now, when that feels like a whole load of shite because my purpose was, and for decades, all about others, and then came this tiredness. I am bored with hearing from others that they are tired. I am bored with myself hearing me even thinking it. Why is that? Well, I know that consistent tiredness is an ask for change. Obviously I don’t include those recovering from surgery or illness, but I meet so many who are just, well, tired of their lives. Too many, and I don’t fix, I am gentle, but my hands are itching to guide them out of their familiar, which is consistently depleting their beautiful energy. I digress.

A young friend came to stay. I haven’t seen her, as she was to us, for well over 30 years. She has grown her own family since then, been through her own troubles. She, like me, has sunk and risen and flown and sunk and risen again, and retained herself, her energy louding my little home into light and fire. She led the marine students in that faraway time of innovative benign research on marine life among the Western Isles. She was dynamic and determined, focussed and bonkers. She still is, and that is what rocked me, me, the elderly, the not needed-anymore. And, yet, I was there with her, once, inside the memories.

She loved being here. Out there, walking the old walks, covering remembered ground, at one with the weather, sun for ten, hailstorm, rain, sun again #normal, and she didn’t rest for a minute, hungry for the memories that I try to avoid. It thinks me. We did good here, me and himself. We launched many such hungry girls, and lads, and we shifted the shift in their lives. We did that. Himself with his utter and complete commitment to being at sea for as long as possible, and me with my gift of cooking barrel loads of nutrition at times when those I have spoken to, other elderlies, would have gone to bed with a not me, help yourself, thing. I never did that, not once, no matter the exhaustion. And, I am proud of that.

She is gone now and. her going has left me drained of breath. She is so vital, and that thinks me too. She sees me as, not granny, but as someone I cannot get a hold of. To her 20, I was at least 40. She calls me inspiration, naughty, out of ordinary, and more. A changer. I am working on believing that. And, these memories that haunt, the ridiculous wishing to walk back into those wild, exhausting, purposeful times, and to not be ‘elderly’ and alone, and not to cower down and hide and resist and all that bollix has led me to get forward (not back) into my frocks and bare legs, no matter the toothy north wind, and then to purchase turquoise button ankle boots.

Maybe the energy this trixy minx left here just found her sass.