Life is such a funny thing. Funny. Now, in my day, that meant fun. A captivating laughter of a word, an invitation into something less boring than the rest of life, an opportunity to be ready to go, to dance, to step out into a new lift, like a birthday, when it wasn’t. Nowadays, it means different things, a few of them, and the ‘thems’ both shrivel the word into something odd, weird, dangerous whilst adding the extra ‘ny’ as if that softens the meaning, which it doesn’t. It seems to me, as I grow ever older and not much wiser, is that the shiver and sliver of words and their meaning, as I knew them, grow roots in a day. I meet them, get them wrong, am laughed at by my young, adapt, even as I untangle myself from the unexpected twist and tumble of them. It thinks me.

I was thinking about knickers. Now, when you put ‘knickers’ into spellcheck, the kicking K is banished. I liked the K. There was a kicking thing about it, about knickers, and I have a lot to say about knickers. Too big, too containing, too long, too fierce, too much, way too much elastic. As if, as if, this containment was ever going to ‘prevent’ anything. How blind, how controlling were our forebears. That thinks me too, and I remember having a beautiful and dynamic daughter, way back. But fierce knickers were never going to make any of a difference to anything. We need fun, we all do.

Today, in my now life, with my now friends, we can laugh about knickers, with a K, We can remember the triggers, the delish of fun, of funny, and, to a great degree we still have all of that. We can share a table, warm and safe, talking of our times, times of fun, of funny, of ghastly knickers, of times of elicit freedom, never spoken of, our dreams, so soft on faces across the table. Actually, I don’t think that has zip to do with age. I have seen across much younger tables and watched dreams spill out, lift, rise, dissipate. That triggered something in me. I remember that urgency, that yearning face over other tables. T’is life. And, then, fun arises, laughter lifts to bonk its head on the ceiling, and return to flutter hope down.

I remember the damn knickers with a K, and those dreams.