I move among oldings , or those who look after oldings. I hear the talk. The formers are all still frippits, dancing out, moving dynamically, finding (and this the truth) life stuff easy. Such as……

lifting in the wood from the outside stack.

Finding a way to the outside stack.

Knowing how to jimmy the gas turn on/off thing after yonks of none of that turning threat, all rusted up.

Someone to help lift a heavy bag of compost, to cope it into a border.

The ability to bend low and then to be able to rise from that bend.

To be able to tie down the wheelies when yet another gale threatens, to notice the warning.

To have the confidence.

And then there’s us. Wondering how long we can do this. I hear the talk, watch the demise. I’ve seen this, done this, watched the slow fall of a strong man. I know nobody wants to acknowledge it, but it is here.

I remember taking hold of the dance floor, all shimmy and low-skimmed, all bright lights and the beams on me. I was incautious, I was. I had no thought on what is now the might become, the becould be. I absolutely lived that life, parties dancing on tables, right out there on the spritz of life, wild, electric, bonkers. I regret none of those times. I miss them, even as I can bring back the moments, the memories. What I am saying is that nobody wants to talk about the olding. If you ask your old ma/pa/grandma/grandpa how they are, you very likely text, Are You Ok?

A questioned contained. The answer is “yes”. What else can it be? If the question actually asked a question, then this ‘old’ person could find a way to answer, and let me say that that the “are you ok” question is not interest, not caring. It feels like I’m too busy but just checking in, thing.

Now there’s a think for you.