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There’s a thing about pants, and I’m noticing it. The thing. I’ve hung many of them on lines, on pulleys, on the side of doors, mirrors, radiators, and not just mine. I know the bottoms they contain, and I wonder. The yawl and spread of these do not comply with the computation in my mind. It’s as if another country has been added, thus compromising my understanding of a person’s geography. They have forgotten themselves. It leads me, inevitably, to a check on my own underpants. I can see, as I bend to eyeball the drawer of such personal items, that I am living in the past. I bought this pair, well, obviously, years ago, just look at the stretch that once kept me in, and which, now, spreads like a new planet no matter how much I fold and scroll. Have I thus spread? I have not. It is just that I don’t need more pants. Oh, really? Is, then, it so, that I don’t need a new bra either? No, I’m fine, same tits, well, a tit and a half to be honest now, but it works and who’s looking anyhoo? Hallo sisters, so not the point, and that laughs me now that I have one tit that is intent on the sky, thank you marvellous cancer surgeon.

Back to pants. I am home now after the most invigorating and uplifting time in Africa. Yes it is rainy, and so what to that, and there are potholes and there might not be adequate salt spread on the single track roads and there will be winds and so flipping what? Some people are fighting for their lives right now. Which is pants. My thing here is this. We can get all caught up in pants, literally. I know I do until I decide this pair has to go, I deserve new, even if gravity has altered my flesh, and a new bra, even if one tit is heading one way, the other, the other. They used to agree, but that was when they did and now it is different and I believe that those who survive, not the longest, but the happiest, are those who just buy new pants, new bra, each time life slams a dunk, whatever the hell that means. And then there are those who are so caught up in the loss of buttock control or whatever, that you just know they are not paying attention.

Hallo those who can laugh at all of this.

Today I went to buy new underpinnings. T’is a while since I did this. What I wear beneath what I wear is functional and, although an important, nay critical, part of the dressing process, I rarely think about buying new. Unless, that is, I discover exhausted elastic or a seam falling apart. My reason for yesterday’s adventure into the lingerie department, a terrifying place in my opinion, so much choice and with so many consequences, is because I have purchased a white dress. It isn’t see-through per se, but bright turquoise knickers would definitely be making a loud statement. I need white. I have no white. White knickers are for children. My teenage longing for something of colour beneath my clothing is a feeling I still recall, even now. However, needs must. I take a deep breath and dive into Lingerie.

I’m like a little girl in a strange world. I study the various bras in amazement. Every consideration has been made, it seems, to provide endless and puzzling results, to uplift, separate and transform what is into what isn’t. Just looking at these things is enough to squeeze the air from my lungs. I cannot imagine wearing any of them for more than a minute. Head down, I scurry through the weapons of torture and on to knickers. Just white pants, that’s all, white, cotton, functional, medium at a guess. I wander through high-leg, low-cut, no-visibility, full-cover, high waist, post-birth, thongs, mid-rise, none of them either suitable or white. I search for Ordinary Knickers. I glance over to the pay point. One young man, deeply inside his mobile. I decide not to ask him for Ordinary Knickers. This is Africa, after all, and we would both be embarrassed, my voice loud in the almost empty department and he, stumbling for words, an unsettling image in his mind. It wonders me he is here at all. I dive back into the confusion. There are no Ordinary Knickers it seems. But wait! In the budget section, I spot packs of 3 and one shows me a glimpse of white between ‘skin-colour’ and ‘black’. I purchase hurriedly and leave, gasping in gulps of freedom air, relieved to be leaving the terrifying and bewildering world of Lingerie behind me.

All good so far you might think. Back home I try on the white, size medium, and sigh. The shape is not my shape, the waistband which isn’t at my waist, too tight. I pull on the dress. It works. The underneath of the overview of me is invisible, although sitting down creates a skin-fall mid body, but, I suppose I can bear wearing the damn things for an evening. I guess they, like all my ancient colourful knickers, will soften over time. I also know I could snip around the elastic, not right through, of course, I don’t want an embarrassing knicker-fall, but just enough to give some give.

I make coffee and think a bit. I do understand, and vaguely remember, the delight of new underwear but as my young and middle life demanded functional clothing, a farmer’s wife ensemble of tee shirt, jeans and a jumper, I didn’t spend much time choosing what to wear underneath, didn’t give it much thought at all. I remember my first bra, a little white thing, a most uncomfortable restraint and one I resented daily. Not much has changed over the years it seems, and now relieved at the thought of another few years of not having to brave a Lingerie department, I move happily into the rest of my day.