There’s been a whole lot of that Let Go thingy lately, well, for a while, to be honest. I used to could (thanks Vicky) do so many things that fight against me now. I could do anything yesterday in my thinking. I could lift heavy potato sacks, furniture, road blocks. But, and this is in the forgetment of aging, I can’t now, and that bothers me because it seems to come as a new thing, every time. I don’t want to give in, give up or is it give over? No matter, a struggle so it is, and that fight for who I was rises like a crazy old loon every time I meet such a finite. Is it finite? Probably, but I don’t like it one bit. Anything that concludes itself makes me fire up in challenge. However, this one might win and I do not go down easy. It thinks me.
My thoughts are not so easy to collate. I might forget what I said just then and say it again, maybe a few times until I notice the eyeroll from my beloveds, patient though they are. Nights collude with the thought chaos, old memories tangled and switched into confused sentences, not as I remembered, my perceived rememberings. I know what I know, but that knowing shifts and the whole dynamic of life is not one I can understand. I can get bits of it, but as I don’t live comfortably in the wholeness of what this generation has learned from pre-school, I can only watch from the sidelines, and cheer.
Many young families have moved to the island. T’is a wonderful thing. Children filling schools for a start, new lives growing in this completely safe place with the chance to experience all the wilding of an extraordinary island, but more than that, much more. The parents of these little ones have found work here, good work, and what I notice and love is that the mothers of these children have too. Actually, that sentence pisses me off big time, as if being a mother isn’t work. Jeez.
I met and have met before, outside my gate with the huge sky loud and my sunroom taking it all in, the sunrise, the sundown, the in-between, young women with children and a smile connects us. She looks up, me in my big goldfish bowl, and I lift and step out, barefoot, to connect. She has moved here, a choice, she has children, she has connect, she is a professional. And, talking to her about sunshine, about hope, about this and that, it hits me, the letting go thing.
To be honest, it is a punch, but I knew it, knew it and for ages. Although I have let go so many times before, all those times that my children left, when I still was ‘it’, when they chose partners, when I was not ‘it’, when my husband began to leave, when , when, when, but this one this realisation has brought me home to letting go. There are young families here, striving as we did once, to raise a life, a family, to make it beautiful and warm and friendly and safe.
I let go happily. It isn’t my time. It’s theirs.