Author: judyfairbairns

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Island Blog – The Soul of my Foot

Stung, I was. I didn’t feel nor register the sting but awoke the following morning to a sore arch. Still I registered not. I just thought, Sore arch, Get moving, Ignore it, as I do when encountering any sort of bodily pain. It wasn’t real pain, more a question. Will I walk wobbly-like in order to favour this whatever-it-is or will I stand tall, walk proud and straight as I choose to walk inside the days of my life. A no-brainer for me. All the day long I favoured not, paced out, never checked to see what was going on down there. I have no idea why I didn’t, but my deeper belief is that, in the face of serious agony, this was a mild case of absolutely nothing at all. This thinking is my choice. I will not catastrophize unless my intelligence tells me this is one, a catastrophe. Much later in the day, as the slight soreness began a sort of rhythmic throb, I did look and there it was, a definite sting hole in my arch. An arch. A doorway from one place to another, from one state of being to another. In other words, an opportunity for inner change. I love that. And I love doorways because they laugh me. I used to say, and it was the truth, that Himself’s mind was wiped every time he passed through one, the other room holding back the unpleasant interchange and that smile on his face as if what just happened never did.

I studied the sting. Well, study is a bit of an exaggeration as I can’t really see the close up details, but I can feel it with my fingers, the perfect circle of red, the pin prick centre stage. It’s rather beautiful, from back here behind big spectacles and wonky chops visionary skills. I experience a slight botherment when I consider how my eyebrows, my face, my close up details must look to a youngster with 20/20 vision, and bat the botherment away. The arch thinks me. You know that. The sting thinks me too and off I go in backtrack wonderment. I do walk barefoot through my grass which is calf-high now, allowing for three things. One is that I want the wildflowers to welcome the pollinators, the second is that the guy who cuts my grass hasn’t appeared for ages and the third is that I could step on a stinging thing. I look out over a considerable festoon of dandelions, the flowers of growth, hope and healing, the bluebells which have escaped (I suspect, deliberately) the confines of a flower bed, the violets, wood anemones, sorrel and something I love the colour of but cannot name. I must have gone through a doorway. I also have considerable trouble locating the small dog poo of a morning, even with my spectacles on, but smile at the tiny tracks she has carved into what must feel like a jungle to her, a jungle of green, with many a place to hide.

So, swimming down into my soul, I have a sting in the soul of my foot. This is clear and obvious, even without spectacles. It throbs a bit, itches more, and is in my arch, a doorway of change. In any life, the gift of the ordinary, if noticed and considered, can flow and weave into any area of that life. A ‘something’ that happens on the outside of us can proffer a doorway in. How is my life, your life? What slight wounding on the outside can illuminate a deeper wounding within? For me, change is afoot. See what I did there? It is no random happening, not for those of us who recognise an outside event as an inner message. We may not, probably do not, understand what is being sent to us, but if we just acknowledge and wait, the voice of the. higher self will communicate. We all have sudden ‘stops’ in our lives when the love in the sky wants us to take notice. Could be sickness, could be a car bump, could be a sting, could be anything that stops us. We are mistaken if we bat it away as nothing. If I could tell anyone anything profound, I would say, Listen and Wait. Those two angels have served me well over many decades. Our souls are strong critters, way wiser than we are with our skin keeping us in. And my soul appears to be lodged in the arch of my foot, for now.

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Island Blog – Courage and Change

I remember turning 50. It was the first year of my freedom. I had, the previous year, hit a brick wall, in a manner of speaking. The road well travelled, the wife and mother, the business partner, the following, always following, stopped me one sudden day in my tracks. I looked around to see nothing new although the horizon lay wide and open and, in my case, uninvestigated. I turned and saw the mud and trudge marks, my own, winding back, back and into the far distance. How orderly, how obedient, how thoughtless. Thoughts rampaged through my brain as if released from prison, all tumbling and somersaulting with glee at their new found freedom. They chattered about new beginnings, about hope and choice and other constellations beyond the one I had, heretofore, considered the only one out there, the only one a-sparkle in the heavens above me. It scared me to death. It lifted my spirits. I had no idea what to do next.

What do you want to do next? The question came loud through the chattering, tumbling, somersaulting chatter. I caught my breath and looked around for what? An angel? Suddenly I felt the cold and numbing wind that blew across these acres of plough and winter and shivered. I was alone with this, with the stop, the wall, the track and the crazy rebel I had suddenly become. I’m not saying I hadn’t rebelled before, never kicked against the pricks, all of them, but I had done my rebelling cautiously and often in secret. Never had the thought of such a walk away from what was expected of me landed in my head, my heart, with such a determined thump. All the way back to the dismal rented cottage squatting uncomfortably within these acres of plough and winter, I talked myself back to sense and sensibility. Behave. You said you would. You’d be letting him down. People will tut and judge. You will tut and judge. All the rest of that day I was battered by opposing factors, big strong factors, and equally matched in this ring of indecision. And then he came home. I saw his smile, his welcome and felt like a creep, the worst kind of creep. I had, a few days before, contacted a local college about joining an art course full time. I had an interview on Monday next. As I sat him down and told him my plan, he didn’t understand. More creep. I told him of the interview. Next year, he asked, smiling his approval. No, I said. Now. Even more creep.

But he came with me for the interview. You’ll start on Wednesday, said the head of art. The course has already begun. I accepted and he said nothing against my decision. I had no car. Small inconvenience he said. Small? We’ll find one. And, within 24 hours, Miss Daisy came into my life. Although he didn’t like me baling the business, abandoning him just on a ‘whim’, he only showed his disapproval through silence, sighing and a bit of head shaking now and then. The following year is history now, the subsequent sales of hundreds of paintings, the move back to the island, the way freedom spoke to me that day and turned my whole life from tinned peaches to crepe suzette. Had I continued the obligatory trudge, I would never have learned to really live.

Now I. have a son about to turn 50. It hardly seems possible. I hope freedom speaks to him too. Freedom is a decision and it lies in the grey of life. The ‘either’ and ‘or’, the black and the white, are just dilemma horns. In between lies the opportunity for colour, a blank canvas, the chance to create a whole new story, not necessarily requiring an abandonment of commitment. Relationships can survive, even thrive on change, however uncomfortable that change may be for a while. But many, no, hundreds of thousands, stay on track, unhappy, unfulfilled, un pretty much everything. We are not here on this earth, in this life, to be humdrum nor trapped. We are here to create magic. And, it takes courage to turn around, I know, courage we all have.

So……what do you want to do next?

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Island Blog – Mind over Matter

I have a wood thing going on here. Well, not just me, it seems, but everyone who burns wood for heat on the whole of the West Coast. Blimey! That is a whole load (no pun intended) of not-woodness. I’m not sure any of us saw this coming, or, it might just be me who never saw it coming, what with my focussed presence in the present and with no reading of news or paying much attention at all to the slivers and shivers of doom talk in the village. Notwithstanding, there is no wood. It wonders me. What about the old and cold folk? I hope they have heaters, that’s what I hope, although it is a backside hope considering the sudden rise in utility bills. I can, at least, stand, walk, split big logs. What of those who cannot, and, what if this continues all the way up to winter? Let’s not go there, spiralling into that cold flapdoodle. Let us remain in the present moment, something my counsellor advises me to do, a place it is best to be because if I step out into the stratosphere of chaos and imaginary collapse, I just might never return. No, that isn’t me. I will always return because I have the gift of good health, strong limbs, (ish) no medication, no condition beyond widowness, which, for your information, isn’t even a word.

My wood box is empty. It’s a big old box and I am never happier than when it is full. It used to be so easy. I call, I order, the split and seasoned wood arrives with a cheery smile. I stack, and grin, the abundance thing always grins me.. My log box smiles back. I think about the trees, the felled trunks, the gift they give, these felled giants and the warmth they bring to my bones. A merry fire, merries. Another not word. However, I have some old pine woodland out back and the trees, over 130 years old now, are beginning to die. Can you begin to die? I suspect, yes. Felled by an expert feller, stacked in the woods, some, and a few of the bigger rounds brought down to my garage. These rounds are ready for splitting. Hmmm. The biggest waist girth a much bigger woman than I, but, I encourage myself, they are light, seasoned, ready for the axe. I apply stout boots and go to lift the first. I can do this. The other rounds snigger, I hear it and shoot them a fierce look. They quieten. Now, I do know about splitting wood, how to avoid the knots, where to place the axe, or, in this case, the wedge. I grab the mell and almost fall over. It is way heavier than I remember. Bracing, my stomach muscles ready, I place the wedge and swing the damn mell. I connect and the groan from this huge round tells me I picked the very spot. With a great deal of puffing, missing, and foot darting as the whole thing leaps off the block, I chop enough for one evening. One Evening? Yes, I am afraid so, just the one.

One morning I decide to attack a twisty one. It is ready for this as am I, or so I thought. I whack the mell and whack the mell, the right groans coming from this part of a lovely old tree, and whack and so on and so forth and fifth and even sixth until the wedge is deep inside the determined roundness of the round which remains, well, round. Rats! Now I have my only wedge wedged and completely buried. I hear a chuckle and raise my hand like a schoolmarm. I step back to assess. I will not call my neighbour, a weak 70 year old pathetic woman, I will not. My brilliant brain kicks into life. Observing the stuckness of things, what can I do to free this wedge sans man help? What I need is a pole with a point, that’s what I need. I have one, surely? I do. I place it beside the sniggering wedge. It is too high for me to whack with a mell which is weighty as a ton of lead. I think again. Elevation, that’s it, for me. I heft the stuck wedge and the pole and big round of ancient pine onto the concrete floor, stepping onto the block. Perfect. I whack and whack and so on. Suddenly, the pole achieves my aim (thank you pole) and the wood breaks apart. I am exhausted but so chuffed with my body and brain power. I am not done. I may be alone with these alone things, I may be 70 but I am not done.

And tomorrow? Well, I go again……..

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Island Blog – Outside the Word

inside the word we are stuck. The meaning of any word, after all, is in the hearing of the hearer and no longer inside the pages of the dictionary, useful as it still is. So many of them have myriad understandings, and not just that; they have historical or familial understandings and in those back-stony places, they settle and fix. It is not surprising that children with no clue of what they say, spout the words of some parent. Could be good. Could be not. I’ve witnessed much from the mouths of children in both places and just knew the words were not birthed, but learned. I’ve met it in the mouths of women and men at corners, at traffic lights, at intersections, at T junctions, at any place of transition when the triggers trigger and the historical bungees snap. It is like spit, or an unthinking response to a difficult question or challenge. I thinks me.

When I write I traverse wordage, skidding over what I have learned (endlessly) about the language of poetry and prose, established by the acknowledged writers of the time, that is/was to say men, and into the fighterly fight for freedom of lingual Speke, irrespective of education, situation or sexual orientation. Words themselves can become ‘stuck’. What is and what is not acceptable for the time can shackle at best, imprison at worst, can become the voice of change whether in subject matter or in what has been dictionary-fixed. Writers fought to be seen and heard and have done so for a very long time. Still do. New pens, new colours, new races, all with powerful voices can now be heard through their writing. Their freeflow of wordage can now arrive into our bookshops. We buy, we relate, we ‘wow’ their courage. But, if we ourselves had met them in the troubled streets of their time, or watched them as they scribed in the cold candlelight of a single room, playing with new phrasing, uncomfortable revelations or the re-shaping of old words, would we have recognised them at all, acknowledged them as ‘acceptable’, on our way to dinner with those who stood steadfast in the current judgement? These time warp vagrants lived inside the word until they refused to for one more minute and that alone could send us running for the shelter of what we knew was Right and Proper, the safe ground. Even inner doubts and wonderments can be quashed decidedly, as we all know.

However, outside the word is a place of new freedom. It also offers a freedom from labelling and without any details given here, there are way too many of them labels. Born, as they are, from old beliefs, old conditioning with its many accompanying and confusing fears, we are now, if we are brave enough, loosed from those chains. Writers turn and twist words, alter the sense of sentences, morph nouns into verbs, into doing words as opposed to settled fat facts. And the best of this is that anyone can write. At no other time in our history has such freedom been offered, never mind afforded or celebrated. However, and there is always one of those, in order to write and to write well, it is not enough to just want to. Before I wrote my book I knew it, taking two writing courses, one with the Open University and one at a writer retreat. Those two words and together create an oxymoron, by the way. Writers do not retreat. Just saying.

The process of writerly training is essential. To learn the disciplines, not of limitation but of a deeper understanding of wordage, of expansive thought, of distilling said thoughts and of creating rhythm, phrasing, and to show but not to tell, all these are essential tools (toolage?). Ok, my online dictionary argued with that one. I won the fight. Writing tutors in this age, this time of emerging from Covid lockdown isolation only to find it is back bigtime, know their stuff. We are different peoples now. We, I am hoping, live alongside each other in respect and acceptance. It is time, HIGH TIME, that we left our oldness behind, those beliefs that kept us home when all we wanted to do was go dancing with the gay guys, the gay girls, those who made life fun no matter the daily troubles they encountered. They and many others who don’t want labels but might need them now, just to be seen. Can we not see them? Yes we can.

Every voice matters, every story is important. Writers, you writer, please write. Do your training, study, yes, but do not hide behind I Can’t Write. You can. Speak. Break down the label barriers. Push through the permission judges and run. We need you, you who have experienced a load of horrible since lockdowns and beyond. You, who have the courage to live outside of the word. We are all waiting……

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Island Blog – The Tomorrowlands

This morning begins, for me, at a time that bothers me in its insistence. No! I almost shout but don’t, modifying my shout-ness, even though there is nobody else to hear, this is no longer acceptable, this 05.30 lark when even the larks are slumbering on. And, yet, my body clock ignores my remonstrations with the tenacity of a teenager. I give in and get up. The light is the right light, the morning light, and the day is dawning whether I like it or not. I do like it for I am an inveterate morning person. What does inveterate mean? I forget, but it fits because other people use it around such subjects as chips with vinegar, reading crime novels and gardening, to mention but three inveteration opportunities.

I digress. Risen and with coffee on the brew, I wander into the conservatory which is cold. The nights are cold, star-backed and sometimes frosty, a relief from the heat of the sun. I am not complaining. Sun and heat are rare gifts in this island life and nobody with a modicum of sense moans about the odd times we enjoy both of these together. Oh we know the sun is out there somewhere, behind a depth of cloud cover that could halt an entire Scottish regiment, a feat most opponents have historically failed to achieve, but the ability to get the old boy to push through has confounded us longtime. Wishing doesn’t cut it, nor do prayers. Weddings can, and have, capsized a whole bride. Nonetheless, we island on because the beauty of this lump of rock is second to none.

The day slows down as I feared it might. Some days are tortoises where they used to be hares, way back when a clamjamfrie of children, not all my own, plucked at my skirts for biscuits and pressed for attention, then disappearing alarmingly, returning just in time and in dire straits, when food was required every 30 minutes and when life had her hand in the small of my back. Move on, move quicker, MOVE! Now there are no such demands, no pressure from life, in fact she is now telling me, the skeerie minx, to slow down, to ca’ canny, to rest. But even as I dislike this sudden, for it feels sudden, lowering of my sails, it is here with me now and I must needs welcome it as I welcomed, and thanked, the spirited life in my limbs. I decide to shift the limb spirit into my mind. It seems to work. Instead of bemoaning a loss of spirit and strength, I welcome it into my thinking. It decides my thoughts which decide my feelings which decide my actions. I have learned this from life coaches, a few of whom, or is it which, are in my family, and I have imbibed the truth of it and taken it as ‘read’. Funny that word. Read sounds like ‘reed’ and we know what it means. Read sounds like ‘red’ and now we are much confused. Heaven knows how anyone can ever comprehend, pronounce or employ such tiddleypom when learning English, especially the old English, a language quite beautiful to me but if I were to launch into it in, say, a Glasgow pub, I might not get home at all.

I’m still digressing. What I wanted to communicate was and is that my day was slow. It took me half hour stretches of resistance to restlessness, holding, controlling my desire to lift, walk, move, and it thinked me of the sea, the waves on the beach, fretting at the sand as an old woman plucks at the bobbles on her old cardigan. I read a bit, walked a bit, went to the shore a bit, made a feta and spinach dip, a bit, sewed a bit and la la la. I know it is right and proper for my children to have their own lives. I celebrate that. I know that it is right that my old china is dead. I celebrate that too, because it was always going to happen and could have been so much more upsetting than it was. I know I am perfectly tickety-wotwot alone. And, I also know that there are so very many other people out there who know exactly how it all feels.

Slow days, they come, but the joy of living in this funny, clever, resourceful and dynamic community is something I treasure and will treasure again at 05.30 in the Tomorrowlands.

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Island Blog – See That

That’s what we say in Scotland. Well, in some parts of this wonderful country. We say ‘See that’ and it doesn’t necessarily mean we see what remarkables us. We might smell it, or hear it, or feel it or notice it, but the verb is all about vision, as we know it. And even that ‘as we know it’ thingy can confound others who stick to the senses as separate and well defined over long years whilst the ‘See Thats’ trickle like water over the human boundaries of the sensory divide.

I remember meeting it in a bus shelter in Glasgow. I heard one woman to say to another ‘ See Him?’ I looked around but she did not and nor did her companion. Both knew he was nowhere near and I quickly learned it. She went on to list his weekend crimes, omissions, commissions, et la and la. I was captivated. The rain lifted all but the pavement from beneath our ill-clad feet, theirs in heels, mine in flats, and my eyes fell to those feet, the way they moved in perfect tune to the active movement of their bodies, arms, fingers faces, eyes, spines. It was as if I was watching trees in the wind, the bending, the swing this way and that, and the connection between these two. They caught branches, tipped back their heads, laughed, hugged, and I could see that. See that.

Since then I have felt at home with a ‘See That’ knowing as I do now that there may be no actual seeing. See that can, and often does become the prologue to a story that only one in the mix has actually experienced. It can come out other ways. See Him? See Her? See This? See That? See Who? See What? And there the story begins and it can lift and rise, pull up colour, crash into grey or black, but it begins every time with vision. Vision experienced, vision proffered, vision received, a communique, a connection, vital.

See that smell? See that sound? See that touch? All visionary in its presentation. I love it because it thinks me. Our eyes are so very precious, our looking, our seeing, our vision and the way we can see means everything. I don’t know what it is to be blind nor losing sight but I do know that a deal of my adventures, understandings, my sorting out of self angst and fear has grown through my inner eye. We all have that sight.

When we eventually caught that bus, the friends still chattering, me silent and alone, I watched them. They were two women leaving their home lives for a day at work, no doubt demanding and exhausting. My stop was before theirs and as I wobbled down the bus (driver didn’t slow) I paused and turned to them. It was a risk. English, or so they thought (so very wrong) and proper spoken. but they had the grace to look up. You taught me something today. Thank you.

They probably still think of me as that weird ya-di-ya woman. See her………..?!!!!!

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Island Blog – Question the Surface

Life is lived on so many levels, or it can be. Mostly we stay on the surface, paddling madly to keep up, put down, move beyond, our horizon in sight. Above us is forever, below is fathom on fathom of a world most of us know little about. Many of us never dive down, and, apart from plane travel, the above is also an endless mystery. How high? How deep? What changes as we fly, as we dive? No, don’t go there. Let’s keep our eyes on who is putting something in our wheelie bin, who drives past, who walks the safety of the pavement or who parks in our space.

On the surface we see only what is. Above and below we cannot see nor understand, so we enjoy the thought of it but that is quite enough thank you. I don’t have the kit, the understanding, the courage to even let my mind go there, never mind my body. I’m too fat, too weird, too unloved, too plain, too beautiful, too something or other. And yet, within the restraints of this constraint we fail to really live. I know this because I remember my surface thinking. Safe, under my control, behind my locked door if I choose to lock it. Enter the Lonely. Oh hell, she or he is just waiting for such a time, such an opening. In ‘they’ come like a giant in a small room, smothering.

Been there. However, not now. And Why? Ah, Why is not a question. Why is an impertinence. Never ask anyone ‘why’. If you asked me differently I would tell you that I know and knew there is depth and width to this life, neither of which, or is it whom, I can either comprehend or explain. I just know. Somethings (plural) will happen if I just decide to acknowledge that fact. There is more than me in this living palaver and thank the holy grail for that! There is nothing lonely about a palaver because a palaver takes at least 5 influences. You cannot create a palaver alone. It just doesn’t work.

This morning, this ordinary morning, I had a plan. I would wake early, make coffee, eat something, sew something and then go to the shop at 9. All sorted. However I had a feeling there was a palaver in the brewing, not of my doing, but a palaver nonetheless. As I was talking to one of my boys on the phone a car pulled in. Rats, I thought. Go Away, I thought. You are NOT in my plan. Turning to see who it was, I recognised a friend. Ah, ok, all change, I thought. He might need coffee and a hug and a chat. I beckoned him in. Come, friend, and welcome. My ordinary plan had just dived deep or lifted into the sky. I smiled.

We spent the day together, walking, talking, noticing everything. We shared laughter and tears, wisdoms and tomfoolery, we just were. No agenda. I saw things through his eyes and, I think, he did through mine. We lifted up and we dived to the depths. The sun was warm, the wind soft and gentle, the larch emerald, the birds singing out Spring, the sea almost table flat. I would have seen none of this had I stayed on the surface, my agenda in my hands. Out of my hands I saw more than I could imagine. The connectivity of human friendship, however unexpected or initially inconvenient can make us question our surface.

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Island Blog – Showing Up

Today I feel small, not insignificant, but small. It thinks me. Feeling small is good considering the smallness of me, of any of us, in the hugeness of the world. Okay, that’s the number of people. However, in a wider way, I am small. So, by the way, are you. It can humble us, this feeling small thingy, but it doesn’t mean we don’t matter, I don’t matter. I can think I don’t matter and I meet other septugenarians who also can think that way on days when effort is required just to show up, when a life-long-lived turns into a solo act with nobody in the stalls, no tickets sold; when children with all their noisy demands and angsts and troubles and growing pains are now living their own lives, to which I am an add-on. Loved, yes, cherished, yes, but an add-on nonetheless. How did that happen? Not so long ago I was so very big. Now I am small. I live on the edges of other lives, cheer their joys, comfort their sorrows and after that I am small again. Just me. Alone.

I look at life as an opportunity to learn and to adapt. On days when I feel small, I round on it, question it, investigate it, challenge it. Not as some others would, not saying, as in a pantomime, Oh No You’re Not! No, not that, because denying a feeling or pushing it into the shadows just creates a bigger shadow and it always returns, bigger, darker, stronger. That way danger lies and I have seen it, seen folk lose their foothold on what life has to offer, watched them give up, grow unkempt, uncaring for themselves, trudging. To hellikins with that. But, and I am very aware of this, t’is so easy to fold in, to shut off, to let the ‘small’ feeling define a man, a woman. In this state a person can start apologising for their voice, their choices, their very existence. It is a sad observation indeed.

But that is not me, and it needn’t be anyone else who questions and wonders and whose spirit, once effortlessly strong and which now needs CPR, is resurrected consciously. Rise you sleepy twit! Well, that’s what I say and loudly. It is definitely harder in the older and lonelier years, I agree, to make something of what’s next. It can be cranky-sore to show up. It can be a massive push through pain and loss. But (love that word) I have met such ‘small’ people over the years, those who still appeared for lunch in a colourful turban or a swishing skirt and emerald leather boots, men included. Those whose spirit refused to stop the party, who danced as best they could, who sparkled in the queue for the Sunday papers. I have seen them, I know. And, do you know what? The younger generation LOVE to see such a love for life because it tells them that growing older, feeling smaller, does not mean a miserable decline, not at all. And what better legacy can we leave those beautiful young people?

So there I was feeling small. It lasted an hour or so, the lonely, the emptiness, the wondering if this is it. Then I whacked up the music, wrote a prayer, went to church, read it, laughed and joshed with others, drove home, walked the wee dog among the wild primroses, violets, new larch green, the nesting birds, geese flying overhead, a sea-eagle half way to heaven. I’m still small in the bigness of things, but I am not insignificant, not at all. If I can show any young person how an old person can still dance, even if only in his or her mind, then I will show up, again and again and again.

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Island Blog – Nature Talk

Snow. I know. Riddickerluss, but snow is here turning the Ben into a light, red at sunrise and bridal just now. That white is a white we can never replicate on material, nor in paint. I remember art school, madly trying to find a pure white, the one Nature produces without a single dither. Ach!. it’s an ‘almost’ at best. Clouds for we painters were always the ultimate challenge. I digress. This Ben is millions of years old, thrust up in the ice age or some such thrusting era, when lands split and digressed and pushed up from oceans and upset a whole load of sailing boats, dinosaurs, marauders and those who set out to ‘discover’ lands which, just fyi, had been lands for a very long time pre ‘discovery’, those who lived there already being just fine with their living thing. Looking at the Ben thinks me of such. When I see and watch a creation way older than me, holding stories and histories within its stones, its edges, its falls and its brave organic life clinging to ledges and finding sunspots, adapting and allowing and still thriving, I marvel. We eejits can learn a thing or two from such a claim to life, instead of whinging about the lack of ryvita (me) or wood (me) on the island.

If nature, sorry Nature, can find ways to adapt to change, big ass change, then so can we. But there’s a difference. Nature has always challenged her followers, her children, her ground, her stones, her seas. We, on the other hand, grow comfortable too easily. A fine street, good housing, adequate pavements, parking, drainage, etcetera has turned us into lumps. I remember in my middle class youth, hearing that this generation, mine, needed to know hardship. I turned away from such nonsense, laughing, well fed, safe, in good housing, secure. Now I see the truth in what they said. We have no idea how to deal with hardship, never taught, not through the years of expectation and abundance. But now we do need to pare our tools, to sharpen our wits because it is coming. We need to teach our children that nothing is a given, to learn them inner strength to deal with what is out there now, how to meet life physically and mentally strong. I wish my own parents had taught me how life can be in the ‘out there’ but they never thought it would change, the ‘out there’. I was completely unprepared, me in my white socks and with church on Sundays and everything warm and safe. I learned the hard way. My kids too, the next generation. And they have kids.

It isn’t the end of the world, no, not at all, but I know that those who learn how to accept the beginnings of climate change and its effects now, will be the kids who can find their way whilst others fanny about wishing it wasn’t happening at all. They, the former, will be the ones who notice everything good such as snow on the Ben in April, hear the sound of life in lambs, watch the green of grass and refuse to cut it, allowing wildflowers to rise for insect food and pollination, who will share their wood when there is a lack, who will learn to bake bread, grow herbs and veg, who will be wise in the ways of that which Nature has been telling us for years.

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Island Blog – This Day

People talk about, sing about, These Days, Those Days, and as I listen, I hear anew. These and Those indicate a collective, a while of days. But it isn’t the truth, not around Days. It can be, around children, or mountains but not around days. Days are themselves and particularly in troubled times, when they behave like picks in the road we knew as level, aggressing the flat ground, upsetting the flow of progress. They pucker up, cause us to founder and flounder, to twist off piste. Well Dammit. Damn those days.

I am learning to laugh at a lot of things these days. No, this day. No promises for tomorrow. I meet those puckers, and not because I have done anything different on this Tuesday, that Thursday, no, not at all. It is all the same now here in this alone state. I might have written ‘widowhood’ there, but I won’t and because there are many states of aloneness. Some chosen, some welcomed, most accepted and accommodated, albeit unwillingly. We need each other but the each and other of whoever we know or encounter can send us running for the dunes. It is confusing.

So, for this day (no tomorrow promises) I rise thankful and smiling. I walk, cook, listen to music, create some sewing nonsense, talk to family, laugh, visit a local library and connect with friends. As I sit now as the rain comes in (a given up here) I won’t say, These Days any more. Because I know, as I never did when I said those words without thinking, that there are not These Days. There is only This Day.